I like the idea of being heavy handed. One idiot screws it all over for the whole community, go that guy. As in, Go find a new server to play as they should have been banned.
I voted for confirmation box personally, since that removes all possible whining. You clicked the box, you made the choice etc. However, I can really see how it would make massive boxers irritated (I only box 3-4, so no big deal for me). But I do like this option as I'm one of those good samaritans when I play. From CoH'ing to flags, to dragon kills like the other nice guys, and when I used to pull people to NPCs they were looking for (the vendor guy in PoFire, and some the harder to find Ssra guys when I had that place memorized). Inviting someone to a group so I could continue this trend wouldn't be much of an impediment to me, but again, I only box 4 at most leaving plenty of room in my group. That doesn't hold up for those who box a full group+ though.
I do like the Group/Guild/Raid option as my #2 choice. And yea, it makes us look like a whiny player base wanting another option (especially when most servers just do what they want and the players can deal with it; You guys rock!), but I think the combo option is a really good idea. PErhaps Auto-CoH for those in Group/Guild/Raid, but pops a confirmation box if you are not Group/Guild/Raid. Not sure if that can be coded however, and what kind of effort that would take to make that differentiation code-wise. Vaion's got enough on his plate, and there are definitely bigger fish to fry than this, but I really like the aforementioned idea.
Just my 2cp
